Moving to San Diego from Minneapolis was a huge transition for me. My family (even extended family) and friends (preschool-college and beyond) all lived in the Twin Cities. If there were to have been a category in my high school year book titled, “Least Likely to Leave Minnesota” my picture would have been just below those words.
My husband and I, along with our two-year-old and baby moved to California for his job. At first I felt as if I was in another country. The streets had Spanish names like Jamacha (pronounced Ham-ishaw) and when I would ask someone for directions the response was “No hablo Ingeles”. It’s a miracle I found my way around town!
One Sunday, we were church shopping and visiting one close to our home. We happened to run into one of Tom’s work buddies. I immediately was drawn to his wife. I thought, “I love her laugh and smile. She is so gorgeous I wonder if she would be my friend.”
Perry and Becky Clark, with their three-year-old had been uprooted from Texas. I discovered Becky was close to her family as well. Both of us young moms clung to each other. We went for walks, met for coffee, joined a health club, had kid play dates, watched each other’s children, and got together as couples. We shared our hearts and lives.
We still do but at a distance. The Clarks now live in Tulsa and we live in Denver. They have two kids and we have four. We have gone through the journeys of job loss, moving, adoption, parent deaths and many other things together. Becky always listens, loves, and laughs. She is my friend.
Who is your gal pal? How has that relationship made you a better person?
Lori Wildenberg Speaker, Licensed Parent and Family Educator, co-author of EMPOWERED PARENTS: Putting Faith First (Wildenberg & Danielson), and co-columnist for the Parenting Prose column in Marriage Magazine. Lori lives in Colorado with her husband and four children. Visit http://www.loriwildenberg.com for more information.